I remember the I was sharing about the song “The Living Years” I was talking about the fact that if we open up the quarrel, between the present and the past, we would only sacrifice the future and its the bitterness that last.

I remember this old story about the Civil war general Robert E Lee
Following the Civil War, Robert E. Lee was visiting in Kentucky where one lady showed him the remains of what had been an enormous, old tree. This tree stood directly in front of her house. She bitterly cried to General Lee of how its limbs and trunk had been shattered by Federal artillery fire. Having poured out her anguish she looked to the old soldier for a condemnation of the North. Following a brief silence, Lee responded, “Cut it down, my dear madam, and forget it.”

It is better to forgive the injustices of the past than to allow them to take root and add bitterness to your future. Memory is a marvelous thing, particularly when it brings us wisdom or joy; however, forgetfulness is equally marvelous for it allows others to succeed where once failure reigned.

Jesus also encourages us to forgives, Matt 18:21-22
Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”
Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.

Seventy times seven does not mean 490 times, but rather it means it must be forgiven completely. Jesus follows it with the parable of the unforgiving servant. Matt 18:23-35

The purpose of this parable is to tell us that God being the master, had forgiven us of a debt that we are unable to pay. Therefore, who are us not to forgive our fellow man, whose trespass against us is much smaller compared to the trespass we had against God.

In the Lords prayers, Jesus taught us to pray in this same manner “Forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors”.

In fact, if we want our prayers to be effective before God, we must learn to forgive (Mk 11:25-26) this principles also applies to when we serve God and make offerings to him (Matt 5:23-25).

If after reading all this, we are still unable to forgive, lets us all remember the words of Jesus on the cross, Lk 23:24
Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do.”

Jesus had offered us the ultimate reason why people cross our paths. Usually the other party is ignorant that his action had clause grief in you. And even if the act is done deliberately, we should still learn to be nice to our adversary, just like what is written in Prov 25:21-22

If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat;
And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink;
For so you will heap coals of fire on his head,
And the LORD will reward you.

When ever we decided to allow the other party to win, God being a righteous judge, will always find his other ways to reward us.

Clara Barton, Red Cross founder, was asked if she remembered an especially cruel thing done to her years before. When she seemed not to recall it, a friend asked, “Don’t you remember?” “No,” said Miss Barton, “I distinctly remember forgetting it.”

Since God has forgiven us, is it now time that we forgive others so that we can get on to a bright future. Is some cruelty holding you back? Forgive and Live.

Therefore let us all learn to apply this to our lives and learn to live peacefully with everyone. Amen